I have recently deleted my facebook. For the sake of no misunderstanding, I did not delete you, I deleted myself. Now, this isn’t how it is for everyone, but I was really just getting sick of the whole thing. For me, it was simply a site that bred superficial relationships. I want deeper friendships that consist of me telling you, in person, when my birthday is, or where I work, or what I’m listening to most recently. I want that privilege of sharing my heart with you…even if it is little bits at a time. I know many people who hate “small talk.” They feel it’s superficial. I’ve heard it said, “why should I ask them how their day is going if I’m not really all that interested in the answer?”
So, is it more superficial to ask someone how their day went and not care, or find out how their day went by viewing a page with their information on it? Or do we not care about how that person’s day went because we can find out by viewing a page with their information on it? There are people who I know about, their birthday, their dinner from last night, but I didn’t hear about it from them. I found out through facebook. That’s where we become so detached from each other that we don’t want to hear personally from someone’s lips how their day went. We want to find out and get out. We don’t want the commitment of actually having to care…of actually rejoicing with them over good things in their day, or crying with them over hardships. We are actually just a little bit nosy and, quite frankly, creepy. Out of this we end up making hasty judgments of people based upon their age, a status, or a particular photo. I’ve been guilty of this plenty of times. What needs to happen though, is a reconciliation of curiosity and genuine care. Genuine interest. I want to ask someone how their day went, not just as a courtesy but actually wanting to hear. I want to say to someone, “I’ll pray for you.” and actually pray for them.
So, I’ve decided I need to get out more. I want to develop deeper relationships with the people God created me to relate to and interact with. I want to make friendships that count, that don’t consist of me knowing all about you but never actually speaking to you. I want to start spending time with you. Yeah, you three that actually keep up with me. So, please, contact me. Let’s get lunch. I want to hear about how God’s been working in your life. If you see me on campus, strike up a conversation, because I do care about how your day is going. I would like to know since I can’t find out through facebook anymore. Even if I could, I’d still want to hear it from your lips.
Please. Don’t just read this and dismiss it because that’s exactly the problem I’m talking about. Don’t just read what I’m thinking and not do anything about it. It’s your choice, but I’m here for you and I want to get to know you.